Today is my friend’s Birthday. Although she is no longer with us, I know that a lot of broken hearted people are raising a glass to her this weekend all the same.
Amy was known to her friends at Fan. She was not only beautiful to look at, she was a beautiful person too. I met her in 1997 and straight away we became close friends. We had a shared love of red wine, indie music and Marlboro Lights. We spent many of our University days together in Manchester and made so many ace memories. Gigs, silly days out, festivals, pub days and also, just sitting trying to figure out how we would survive the weekend living on just a 32p packet of Bourbon biscuits and two litres of cider! Those years, some of best of my life- simply because of the memories we created all together.
Fan was the person who taught me to be open and loving to friends. Before Fan I rarely hugged anyone- but she hugged and kissed me so much, it became the norm in our friendship. In all our group.
When I think of Fan, I will remember our ‘video club’ days watching Bridget Jones over and over, our joint Cold Feet box set ownership, our matching parka coats and bright coloured beads, our Malia holiday and our games of FROTH/ ‘ I Have Never’. Years went by and we still played these games at Christmas. Gatherings just won’t be the same without her. We made toasts to various idiots when we were drunk, she loved a toast to Rik Waller! Parties, weddings, Hen Do’s and Birthdays- she was always on form and always the last awake, drinking with me! We put the world to rights and laughed, a lot. I hope she knows that nothing in our group will be the same without her.
I chose Fan as one of my four bridesmaids and therefore she was 1/4 responsible for my flamingo outfit and ridiculousness that ensued! I always joked that I’d get her back at her own hen party- I’m so sad that I’ll never get the chance. She meticulously planned games, decorations, a memory book and outfits for me that weekend (along with my other ‘maids’ of course). Always excited about the latest celebration, Fan put her heart and soul into making sure her friends felt loved; and I absolutely did.
Despite being super cool (the coolest, actually) and a lot of fun she also remained gentle and quiet. She looked after those closest to her and focused on kindness and mindfulness. I will always try to do the same and really think she spread that focus far and wide. Fan was a wonderful and kind friend and I will miss her always. We all will.
Happy Birthday Amy x