They have had silly arguments before well, more spats or silly tantrums with each other but this was different, it was a full on fight after becoming very upset with each other.
The kids were sat at their little table eating dinner. Gabriel was attempting as usual, to add ketchup to his plate (and Willow’s) and they were both giggling away at each other being very cute.
Dave and I were sat talking about our day, then all of a sudden Willow let out a huge scream. I turned and the two of them were physically grappling over a fork, screaming at each other and attempting to push each other from their chairs.
I watched in disbelief. How had things turned so quickly?! Dave and I both told them to stop and calm down, we went over to them and took the fork away and asked them to sit and finish their dinners nicely, but they continued to push scream and shove each other.
After about five minutes (which seemed an eternity!) they both calmed down. They then sat and finished their dinner as we asked them to, albeit in silence! I also caught them glaring at each other until bedtime, which luckily was only a hour or so later. The actual incident ended almost immediately, but feelings had hung-over, I was so glad it happened at the end of the day!
How can a one year old and a two year old get into a nasty fight like that so quickly? After all, Willow probably only knows twenty words and they had been at eating quite happily just a few minutes before.
In the morning, both of them got up and carried on like nothing had happened. Perhaps they had forgotten, or perhaps as toddlers they don’t hold grudges. But whatever the reason, we were glad.
The incident got Dave and I thinking about what the future holds for their relationship. We know they love each other and they laugh, giggle away and cuddle together when it suits them. But was this row the beginning of many as siblings?
Dave and I have siblings. we know, it’s normal behaviour to row and fight together because after all, it is often what clears the air after a disagreement or incident.
When I first looked over, Willow was glaring at Gabriel and making the most noise by crying. Gabriel looked angry and frustrated. Interestingly, Willow calmed down the quickest, but Gabriel continued to scowl at Willow and being mean to her. Perhaps its their ages, or perhaps it’s their personality traits. But it was bizarre to watch, because until now, they have been babies. Not fighting toddlers!
What I found most difficult was that we could not figure out what the fight had been about. Had one of them started it, or was it a mixture of them both? I don’t know, and I will never know. But what we did realise was, that the fight may not have been about what it looked like. Yes they both grabbing the fork but we suspect the argument started before as it did not make any sense.
I suppose this is the start of their sibling rivalry, I’ve blogged before about their Brother-Sister relationship, and how amazing it is to see it develop, but it’s also very sad as it means they are growing up. I think sibling rivalry is probably going to be a constant in their lives, but it’s healthy I suppose. Just like being in any relationship, there needs to be difficult times to enjoy and appreciate the good. My only concern is being a good enough referee!