It really made me laugh at first when one of my subscribers emailed me to ask, ‘Where have you been?’ I thought I’d not blogged for a few weeks but actually when I looked, it’s been a few months! Oops. It wasn’t intentional- quite the opposite in fact, because I always thought that if I ever had another pregnancy, I’d be blogging my way through it, to cope! But it hasn’t turned out that way. I think this is mainly due to the fact that I’ve been so busy. So where are we all at? What have we been doing? And, what’s happening with my pregnancy? Read on for a little update!
In February when Jake and I found out I was pregnant we made the decision to move house fairly quickly. We needed a shared home, with space indoors and out! Of course we needed to decide where, when and how this could happen – whilst also considering all the other people involved. My children and their dad, Jake’s children and their mum and also our friends and families. Eventually, we agreed to move over the border to North Yorkshire. A new start for us both, whilst being close enough to the people who are important. Fast forward to May and we finally moved into a gorgeous converted stables which has a huge kitchen, lovely views, canal access and most importantly, space! The move for me wasn’t met without stress or hassle but we got there in the end! Jake is still in the process of selling his house in Manchester but we hope things will be completed by the end of the academic year, meaning another box ticked for preparation of the new baby’s arrival!
This brings me nicely onto the baby. With all the changes and moves I have at times forgotten I was pregnant! Previously I’ve found the first trimester the most difficult; the longest to deal with I guess, simply because there’s the anxiety to deal with of reaching 12 weeks safely. But we got there. We then also, without the blink of an eye, reached 20 weeks too. We chose not to find out the gender of the baby. Neither of us mind whether the baby is a boy or a girl and we would like the surprise! It will also reduce my shopping habits (for now anyway). Everything was as it should be at the scans, measuring slightly smaller than my dates (as usual..) but that’s no fuss for anyone currently. This will be monitored later with extra scans and Consultancy antenatal care, just as my last pregnancy with Willow.
When I was 20 weeks pregnant we decided to book a holiday and we left a few weeks later. I felt in desperate need of some sun and we wanted to celebrate Jake leaving work to relocate to Yorkshire. We found a lovely holiday in Riviera Maya, Mexico and jetted off, child free to chill, read, enjoy some good food and also, just have a rest! It was the perfect break and we really did have a wonderful time despite missing the kids!
So where are we now? Well, we have settled in our new North Yorkshire home. The kids seem to like it and enjoy the land to play on and both Jake and I are happy with how the kids are getting on too. It’s great for me to have Jake around to help with tasks, especially as I have started to have issues with an inflamed pelvis. Physio is helping but on regular occasion, I am in a lot of pain! I’ve just a couple of months left at work however and I’m keen and determined to get through them! I’m feeling a little sad about leaving work for a while, but I will most definitely be returning, being at home full-time is not for me or for us as a family!
Preparation wise we have done pretty much, nothing! Again, time seems to be slipping away but I’m not sure that’s problematic. On the parenting scale, between us we are very experienced?! We have chosen a pram at least (a very lovely Bugaboo Cameleon 3) and bought two baby grows and a set of muslin cloths however! The baby’s nursery will be sorted once I leave work and everything else can be purchased in the coming months.
The thought of becoming a Mum again at first felt scary. Even though I never felt ‘done’, if I’m honest I was worried about whether I was sure I wanted to return to those sleepless nights, the breastfeeding and all those mind-numbing episodes of In The Night Garden but now I think my mindset has changed. I’m really looking forward to it, we both are. Life changes and we adapt, our plan A’s become plan B’s and then plan C’s etc but ultimately things are good, we are really happy, the kids are healthy and happy and we have a real adventure to look forward to and that’s exciting!
Gabriel and Willow are both thriving. Growing by the day they impress me with their enthusiasm and hilarious personalities all the time. Gabriel turned six a few weeks ago and his reading and writing abilities for his age make me very proud. Willow is still asking questions about everything and she’s as sassy as ever, she really will go far!
The next few months will be spent with the kids, taking all of them on holiday for a week during the school holidays, and also some alone time for Jake and I too. September sees Willow start school so that will be busy, then we’ll celebrate both (Jake’s and mine ) Birthdays and boom- the baby will be here. Then, it will be Christmas….
Just 14 weeks to go until baby arrives. EEK!