My children have always been inquisitive. They must ask me at least twenty questions a day. Various topics and a variety of random discussions we have, often begin after a series of questions. I love their inquiring minds, asking questions to try make sense of the world.
We play ‘questions’ in the car on long journeys and we always talk about things special to us when we are driving too. Thursday was no different, after ten or so minutes discussing which item at home we loved the most and why, the conversation moved on to how Gabriel and Willow would like to live when they are ‘grown ups’.
‘When I’m grown up, I’ll have a car and drive’ Gabriel announced. Then Willow told us ‘.. and when I’m grown up I will have my own house and a big bed just like yours Mummy!’
I laughed to myself, it was pretty sweet how they both wanted to be just like me in a way, and endearing as they see my life as inspirational. Likely yes, it’s one of the only lives they see in-depth, but still it made me smile!
Then just as I thought we would move on, Gabriel said ‘As well as a car and a house, I’d like to have two children, so I can feed them and they will grown big and strong’
‘Me too! I want to have children when I’m a grown up’ Willow agreed.
Again, I smiled. They really do want to be just like me. They adore their lives, they have no worries, anxieties or concerns. This makes me so proud to be a parent, so happy to be one of THEIR parents.
Then, Gabriel hit me with THE question.
The question that as parents, we all dread. The question that we know will come one day, most likely in the most unexpected circumstances.
‘Mummy, when I want to have children where will I get them from? Did you find us? Or buy us? Where did you get us from?’
Gah. I was driving. Now wasn’t the time for THE talk. He’s four years old. His three year old sister was also present. Then was not the time to be discussing birds and bees, pregnancy or childbirth. I panicked, thought on my feet and simply replied, ‘The best thing to do is when you are older see what you need to do, then hopefully you will be able to have what you would like as a grown up’
A cop out, I know. But he accepted it. Sometimes you need time to think, time to research. As a parent we don’t know all the right things to say or do!
Once I arrived home and thought about it, I realised that actually Gabriel has actually been interested in this subject for a few weeks now, perhaps spurred on from one of his teacher’s pregnancies. He has been shoving stuffed animals up his top and announcing his pregnancy! Perhaps now is the time to answer his questions after a little bit of thought, with simple, truthful responses that don’t go overboard on the facts of course!
Wish me luck..